By
eHow Relationships & Family Editor
Difficulty: Moderately Easy
Step1
Figure out how to help others without immediately asking them to help you. This is the golden key to networking nirvana.
Step2
Find ways to put people together whom you think would enjoy or at least benefit each other. They're likely to return the favor.
Step3
Inventory your existing network. How many people on your list are mere acquaintances? How many would immediately take your phone call? Concentrate on moving pertinent people from the first group to the second.
Step4
Arrange third-party introductions whenever possible when you target someone new to meet. This doesn't have to be an in-person introduction, which could be an imposition. Often just a brief e-mail message--explaining who you are and what common ground you might share--will plant the seed.
Step5
Do your homework before approaching someone new, not just about his or her interests but also about how he or she can be a good contact. When someone asks, "How can I help you?" that's not the time to start waffling. Answer with specifics.
Step6
Join professional organizations directly related to your career goals. Attending meetings, serving on committees and speaking at conferences are all ways to expand your sphere of contacts. See 208 Prepare a Speech.
Step7
Write memory-jogging hints on the backs of the business cards you collect: where you met the person, mutual colleagues, product names. Follow up with promising contacts as soon as possible, or you risk their forgetting ever meeting you or your forgetting why they seemed so promising.
Step8
Sift through accumulated business cards and enter the information into a contact-management system. The data entry is timeconsuming but infinitely valuable for later search and retrieval. See 11 Organize Your Contacts.
Step9
Practice listening well. Pay close attention to what people say, and you'll have a better chance of remembering conversation details as well as being able to refer to them later.
Step10
Identify yourself clearly when making follow-up calls. Don't expect people to remember you merely from your name. To avoid putting them on the spot, immediately supply an explanation of when or how you met and why you're calling. Keep in mind that people hate being embarrassed--so helping them get past an awkward moment is key to a successful conversation.
Step11
Revive the art of letter writing. A handwritten note always makes a more memorable impression than an e-mail message.
Comments
nickyswriting said
on 5/16/2008 Great tips!
Lindah said
on 1/31/2008 Good advice. Thanks for sharing.