How to Practice Proper Pen Pal Etiquette

There are some basic guidelines to follow when you email or write a letter to a pen pal. Follow these tips and chances are you will get a prompt reply back.

Difficulty:

Easy

Instructions

Things You'll Need

• Etiquette Books
• Postage Stamps
• Envelopes
• Personalized Stationery
• Writing Pens

1. Begin each message with a pleasant greeting.

2. Respond first to the news and information that your pen pal shared in his or her last message.

3. Follow this with your own news briefing.

4. Share information about the things that are going on in your life at the moment.

5. Keep your tone upbeat.

6. Try to keep your letter short enough that it can be read in one sitting.

7. Realize that over time, you and your pen pal may agree to write longer letters or e-mails as you become more comfortable.

8. Pace the revelation of personal information. Remember that telling too much about your life too soon could scare away a new friend.

9. Avoid controversial topics - at least in the beginning of your relationship.

10. Understand that written letters are usually a bit more formal than e-mails.

11. Be yourself in your correspondence. Remember you don't need to impress anyone.

12. End each letter with a note with encouragement for your pen pal to reply. ("I look forward to hearing from you soon" or something similar would be appropriate.)

Tips & Warnings

• If you write a letter by hand, make an effort to keep your writing legible.

• Use dark ink that is easy to read. Try to avoid using a light pencil.

• Respond as promptly as you can to your pen pal's messages.

• Don't give out personal information to someone whom you've just begun writing.