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How to Practice Proper Pen Pal Etiquette

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There are some basic guidelines to follow when you email or write a letter to a pen pal. Follow these tips and chances are you will get a prompt reply back.

From Quick Guide: Writing a Pen Pal
Difficulty: Easy
Instructions

Things You'll Need:

  • Etiquette Books
  • Postage Stamps
  • Envelopes
  • Personalized Stationery
  • Writing Pens
  1. Step 1

    Begin each message with a pleasant greeting.

  2. Step 2

    Respond first to the news and information that your pen pal shared in his or her last message.

  3. Step 3

    Follow this with your own news briefing.

  4. Step 4

    Share information about the things that are going on in your life at the moment.

  5. Step 5

    Keep your tone upbeat.

  6. Step 6

    Try to keep your letter short enough that it can be read in one sitting.

  7. Step 7

    Realize that over time, you and your pen pal may agree to write longer letters or e-mails as you become more comfortable.

  8. Step 8

    Pace the revelation of personal information. Remember that telling too much about your life too soon could scare away a new friend.

  9. Step 9

    Avoid controversial topics - at least in the beginning of your relationship.

  10. Step 10

    Understand that written letters are usually a bit more formal than e-mails.

  11. Step 11

    Be yourself in your correspondence. Remember you don't need to impress anyone.

  12. Step 12

    End each letter with a note with encouragement for your pen pal to reply. ("I look forward to hearing from you soon" or something similar would be appropriate.)

Tips & Warnings
  • If you write a letter by hand, make an effort to keep your writing legible.
  • Use dark ink that is easy to read. Try to avoid using a light pencil.
  • Respond as promptly as you can to your pen pal's messages.
  • Don't give out personal information to someone whom you've just begun writing.

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on 4/16/2009 Nice article, thanks for sharing. 5* and rec

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on 11/22/2005 Ask lots of questions about your new pal, it encourages them to reply. Don't ask too many questions, it may seem like you aren't a very interesting person!

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