How to Know if You Love Him

"He loves me--he loves me not" is easily solved with a freshly plucked daisy...but how do you know if you love him? There's a big difference from being infatuated with someone and in love, but in the beginning it can be hard to tell the difference between the two.

Instructions

Difficulty: Moderate

Things You’ll Need:

• Writing Papers
• Journal
• Pencils Or Pens

1. Clarify what love is for you. Write down all your thoughts and feelings about what a loving relationship would be like for you.
2. Distinguish between love and lust or infatuation. Lust is an intense sexual desire. Infatuation refers to the initial stage of a relationship, when you are "crazy" about him, but this feeling usually fades over time.
3. Ask other people how they define love or know if they love someone.
4. Write down how you do feel about him. For example: you enjoy his company, have similar interests, feel safe, trust him, think he is attractive, etc.
5. Think about how well the two of you relate to each other. For example: How well do you communicate with each other? How do you deal with conflict? Do you bring out good or bad parts of each other? Can you show different sides of yourself?
6. Ask yourself if you see and accept him as a whole person. Love isn't just loving the parts of him you like, but choosing to love him overall.

Tips & Warnings

• The infatuation phase of a relationship typically lasts about six months. You may think you are in love and he is perfect for you. It often takes more time to tell if you are truly compatible and whether you can really love the whole person, good and bad.
• Read books on the subject of love. Wise people have been writing about it for hundreds of years. In the bookstore, look under psychology, spirituality or philosophy.