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How to Tell Him You Love Him

By eHow Relationships & Family Editor

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Telling him "I love you" is an important step in building intimacy in a relationship. It's three words that weigh a lot and says a lot about your commitment to your partner. Therefore you should be absolutely positive you love your partner before you utter that sentence and also be prepared for all possible responses.

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Instructions

Difficulty: Moderate

Things You’ll Need:

Romantic Gifts

Step1

Think about when and where you want to tell him. Is there a special place you want to be? A certain day? For example, you might want to tell him at the restaurant where you went on your first date, or on the two-month or nine-month anniversary of your first date.

Step2

Set the mood and be romantic. Buy him a little romantic gift or something that sets a romantic tone.

Step3

Look at him directly, take his hand and tell him how positive you feel about him. Give him examples of things about him you really like. Be sincere.

Step4

Tell him how you feel being with him, and how much you enjoy your time together. Be specific about what you value and appreciate about being with him.

Step5

Follow these positive statements with telling him you love him in whatever way feels best for you. For example: "I feel I've come to love you," "I realize I love you," "I feel so much love for you," "I've fallen in love with you," or simply, "I love you."

Tips & Warnings

Prepare yourself mentally and emotionally for his possible response if you are not sure whether he feels the same way about you. For example, if you are hoping he will say "I love you" in return, what if he doesn't? Decide whether you are ready to be that vulnerable and whether you can handle whatever he may say.
Go for it if you feel ready to take the risk. Love is risky!
Try not to drink too much. If you feel you have to drink to tell him, it conveys that you can't be yourself and tell him how you feel. If this is the case, wait until you are ready.

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jonnysgirl said

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on 9/22/2008 This article is helpful, I really liked it. Check out my articles on this same subject.

peteroselyn said

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on 8/28/2008 i am communicating with this man in which who caused me so much pain in the past. he had an affair with the other woman but behind that i still love him the same way and even better as it was. i am still communicating with him until such moment the wound is totally healed. we are friends now though but the feelings i have for him does not changed in any ways. i do not remember what wrong he did but all i remember everyday of my life is that i love him though we are just friends. i just but love him as exactly who HE IS. i HOPE ONE DAY HE IS TO REALIZE HOW MUCH HE MEANS TO ME...let me share you with at peth_07@yahoo.com.ph

jjmess said

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on 2/1/2008 For more about Valentine's Day why not drop in and visit me and my friends at our love and relationship thread on the forum pages: http://www.ehow.com/community/forums/topic_33827_valentine’s-day:-in-love?-broken-hearted?-alone?-how-do-you-deal?.aspx

ilovethisguy1 said

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on 12/11/2007 I'v read all the comments posted befor this,and everyone is absolutly right,In my case he has told me he loved me but I never really knew when he was serious.Hes big on joking. I love him though, i know that i have been seeing him (not an official couple) but since june.2006 and honestly iv never felt the way i feel for him for any one else. when he looks into my eyes i honestly get that feeling in my stomach as if my heart stops beating,and when im laying in bed next to him i feel so safe. No other guy has ever showed me this kind of attention and pretty much had complete control over my brain. Its almost scary,but im not scared because i dont think he would ever hurt me. He is really all i ever think about,do you think its time i tell him i love him with all meaning behind it or should i wait? im confused i dont wanna scare him off but i dont want to wait and have him thinking i dont!?

dove said

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on 2/12/2007 Just be honest and tell him that you really love him and how much he means to you. Be prepared if he doesn't respond the way you want him to or he rejects your love.