How to Tell Him You Love Him

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Telling him "I love you" is an important step in building intimacy in a relationship. It's three words that weigh a lot and says a lot about your commitment to your partner. Therefore you should be absolutely positive you love your partner before you utter that sentence and also be prepared for all possible responses.

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Difficulty: Moderate

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

Romantic Gifts

Step 1

Think about when and where you want to tell him. Is there a special place you want to be? A certain day? For example, you might want to tell him at the restaurant where you went on your first date, or on the two-month or nine-month anniversary of your first date.
Step 2

Set the mood and be romantic. Buy him a little romantic gift or something that sets a romantic tone.
Step 3

Look at him directly, take his hand and tell him how positive you feel about him. Give him examples of things about him you really like. Be sincere.
Step 4

Tell him how you feel being with him, and how much you enjoy your time together. Be specific about what you value and appreciate about being with him.
Step 5

Follow these positive statements with telling him you love him in whatever way feels best for you. For example: "I feel I've come to love you," "I realize I love you," "I feel so much love for you," "I've fallen in love with you," or simply, "I love you."

Tips & Warnings

Prepare yourself mentally and emotionally for his possible response if you are not sure whether he feels the same way about you. For example, if you are hoping he will say "I love you" in return, what if he doesn't? Decide whether you are ready to be that vulnerable and whether you can handle whatever he may say.
Go for it if you feel ready to take the risk. Love is risky!
Try not to drink too much. If you feel you have to drink to tell him, it conveys that you can't be yourself and tell him how you feel. If this is the case, wait until you are ready.

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givechulachance said

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on 5/9/2009 I will like to say that me and my husband will be 10 years married, but I hurt him badly and I regret it so much. He dont want to give me a chance at all. Hes in iraq right now and I am trying to fight for this marriage but hes real hurt that hes pushig me away. i made a myspace profile to show him how much he means to me but its not working. I would like to get him back and I will change for good. Can you add me and put comments to help me get him back. www.myspace.com/iluvmybookybear4ever80I want him to see what other people think about if i deserve a chance we have two kids also. Thank you.

tinknpan said

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on 1/14/2009 Since my husband died almost 3 tears ago, I have been seeing a guy that I am totally in love with. And I have told him as much. He says he loves me too, but he's not in love with me...We've been together for 2 years and he is my everything. I am totally in love with hm but he just loves me, not in love with me... What's a girl to do ?

jonnysgirl said

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peteroselyn said

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on 8/28/2008 i am communicating with this man in which who caused me so much pain in the past. he had an affair with the other woman but behind that i still love him the same way and even better as it was. i am still communicating with him until such moment the wound is totally healed. we are friends now though but the feelings i have for him does not changed in any ways. i do not remember what wrong he did but all i remember everyday of my life is that i love him though we are just friends. i just but love him as exactly who HE IS. i HOPE ONE DAY HE IS TO REALIZE HOW MUCH HE MEANS TO ME...let me share you with at peth_07@yahoo.com.ph

jjmess said

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on 2/1/2008 For more about Valentine's Day why not drop in and visit me and my friends at our love and relationship thread on the forum pages: http://www.ehow.com/community/forums/topic_33827_valentine’s-day:-in-love?-broken-hearted?-alone?-how-do-you-deal?.aspx