Things You'll Need:
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Step 1
Allow yourself to grieve over the loss. Grieving includes going through feelings such as sadness, anger, shock and acceptance.
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Step 2
Take any pressure or expectations off yourself to get over it quickly. Depending on the length of the relationship or how important it was to you, you may need weeks, months or longer to get over it.
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Step 3
Take care of yourself. Get adequate rest, eat right and get some exercise.
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Step 4
Nurture yourself. Give yourself permission to relax, take it easy, and do whatever makes you feel better - such as taking walks, baths or naps; listening to music; reading; or watching movies.
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Step 5
Plan pleasurable activities with friends or family ahead of time (especially on weekends) to keep you busy and get your mind off the loss.
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Step 6
Consider joining a support group to be with others dealing with similar feelings. Ask your doctor for a referral.
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Step 7
Talk to your doctor about possibly taking medication if you're having trouble sleeping, or if you're experiencing anxiety or depression. Or discuss the options of herbal supplements such as St. John's wort (for depression) or kava kava (for anxiety).
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Step 8
Get a journal and write down what you have learned from the relationship about yourself, relationships and life. It's a great way to get things out of your head. Write down every every thought and emotion that runs through your head and use it as a venting tool.
Comments
thischikhere said
on 8/13/2009 Right now I feel like crap! My boyfriend of 2 & a half years cheated on me with a neighbor & tried to keep me from finding out by never allowing me to come by his house. For almost four months he made up excuses about how he felt so bad & needed to get his life together & he just couldnt see me or anybody because of what he was going through. It then got to the point where he said he wanted us to become friends because that was something we neglected to do in the beginning. I thought it was bull because why do you want us to be "friends" when we are already in a relationship. There were many red flags that were starting to pop uop, but he would always remind me of the love he had for me & how when he got through his lil "funk" things would be better. That was until I found out WHY all of these excuses were being thrown out at me. It's been a month since I found out & of course, he i...
jjmess said
on 2/1/2008 For more about Valentine's Day why not drop in and visit me and my friends at our love and relationship thread on the forum pages: http://www.ehow.com/community/forums/topic_33827_valentine’s-day:-in-love?-broken-hearted?-alone?-how-do-you-deal?.aspx
alicia114 said
on 6/19/2007 i got my feelin caught up wit a man i enjoyed his present but there was days when he treated me like chixken head i fed him ,clothes him and never ask him for much just time and i couldnt get dat it my fault becuz i expected more then what i was gettin. i can say i love a man wh wasnt happy at home would do any thing for him to make him happy and got nothing in return not even happy mothe day valentine or christmas gift. we work for the same company. there days i miss him when i dont hear from him but i know sooner or later i gotta let go but im bein foolish holdin on to nothing dat there. what hurt me most i show him made love and respect but ath e end of day he dont call me ask me how im don and sleep with his woman of 16yrs. how can a man not be gettin his pleasure and hapyness at home remain with the female but do other women? im lost
alicia114 said
on 6/19/2007 im in a sitution where the man i like got he best of me becuz i allow it and i wanna gain my strenth back and be the person i was b4 i met hte pig snob make it so bad he knows how i feel bout him feedin him clothin tellin him how much u care earn a man heart or even respect i admit im dum,b ecuz yes the man got a woman an he been cheatin on her for the last 16yrs of the relationship i been seein him for 9 months and becuz i care so much doin for him made me happy but him mis treatin me hurt more and at times i think bout how his girl feel but bein stubburn minded there a point i dont care bout her becuz i dotn deal wit her
collegechickb said
on 5/25/2007 I JUST broke up with my boyfriend of almost 3 years. I really loved reading everyone's article's. It was so hard. He had been cheating on me a week before we had broke up and then what made it so hard was that the girl that he is with now is my enemy, but Britney04
Your article was what I needed. Thanks alot!!!