By
eHow Personal Finance Editor
Difficulty: Moderately Easy
Things You’ll Need:
- Stress Management Counseling
- File Cabinets
- Attorney Referral Services
- Copying Services
- Mortgage Payment Plans
- File Folders
- Personal Organizers
Step1
Determine if payments are voluntary or required. Only required payments are alimony.
Step2
Verify that payments are set up by an official written agreement or court order. Only such officially determined payments are alimony.
Step3
Determine if payments are made by some form of money. Alimony must be paid in money. Property settlements, goods or services are not alimony. (Divorces before 1985 can be different, however.)
Step4
Determine if payments are going to a bank or mortgage company to pay for a home you and your spouse jointly own. Such payments are alimony only if the payer makes all the mortgage payments, and then only half of the payments count as alimony.
Step5
Determine if payments are for real estate taxes or insurance on a home you both own jointly. Only if you are tenants in common and the payer made all the payments can half of the payments be alimony.
Step6
See if your agreement or order states the payments are not alimony. Even if they seem to be alimony, if it says they are not, they are not.
Step7
Find out if the payer is behind on child support payments. Payments are not considered alimony if back child support is due.
Step8
Find out if payments are in any way linked to the ages or circumstances of children. If payments are to stop or decrease when your child reaches a certain age or goes to college, they are child support and not alimony.
Step9
Determine if payments are compensation of any kind. If they are for use of property, time caring for a child or in return for some service undertaken, the payments are not alimony.