How to Dress Formally for a Funeral

Dress in a dignified manner to attend a funeral.

Attending a funeral requires a certain demeanor. You are there to pay your respects to the deceased and offer condolences to family and friends. Make sure your clothing is clean and pressed, and avoid garments that are inappropriate -- drawing attention to yourself. A funeral is a solemn and respectful occasion. By dressing conservatively, those who attend show their respect and consideration for the deceased and the bereaved. By following a few guidelines, you will be better prepared to dress in an appropriately formal manner.

Instructions

1. Wear neutral or dark colored garments. Men should wear a black, gray or navy business suit with a white dress shirt, and a solid dark or subtly patterned tie. Women should wear either a simple dress or a suit with a white dress shirt -- with a conservative style and neckline. Keep a suit jacket or blazer available to wear over a sleeveless dress, especially in some religious settings. Young boys should wear dark pants and a white shirt or a suit. Dresses, or skirts and blouses, are appropriate for young girls.

2. Wear dress shoes that are comfortable for extended periods of standing or walking. If the location of the funeral is crowded, you may not have a seat during the service. You may also need to walk a distance from a parked car to the grave site. For men, a pair of polished, dark shoes that coordinate with the suit is appropriate. Women should wear simple, low-to-mid heeled dress shoes. And dress shoes are appropriate for boys and girls. Casual or sport shoes are inappropriate for funerals.

3. Choose socks or stockings that maintain the look of your outfit. Dark dress socks for men and boys, neutral stockings for women, and dress socks or tights for girls will complete your formal attire.

4. Keep hairstyles fairly subdued -- simple cuts for men and boys, and clean shapes for women and girls. Avoid fancy hairstyles, heavy makeup, and embellishments that attract attention or require continuous maintenance.

5. Keep in mind any religious affiliation of the deceased and family. Be prepared with appropriate head coverings -- for both men and women, depending on the setting -- to show respect.

6. Wear minimal jewelry. You want to avoid being the center of attention, and conversations should not be focused on the latest trends in jewelry.

Tips & Warnings

• When choosing jewelry and hair accessories, consider what you might wear to a business interview or important business meeting. Stay conservative and streamlined in your and your family’s personal embellishments.

• Some families are choosing personalized and non-traditional funerals, where attendees are asked to dress in a certain manner. Respect these requests and follow the guidelines provided.

References

• Funeral Planning: Funeral Clothing – What to Wear