How to Spark a Conversation With a Girl

The art of seduction is a give and take. Engage her with creativity.

It's that moment that reminds you of an old romantic movie. You stand across a crowded room and a beautiful girl catches your eye. Your eyes meet for a fleeting moment as she spares you that smile to signal she's interested. This volleys the ball into your court so you can make the next move. Knowing how crucial this first impression is, you don't want to blow it with some cliched pickup line. Instead, take stock of your surroundings, dig into your conversation reserves and show this beautiful girl how creative and witty you are.

Instructions

1. Take stock of your surroundings and pick an object to use as your conversation starter. Perhaps it is a band playing at a club, or simply artwork hanging on the wall. Make it something you can start a conversation in a natural, casual way.

2. Ask for information. If you are at a sports bar, ask for the score. If you are in a club, ask if she knows the name of the song or band. Ask for directions or suggestions. By asking her a question, it engages her to continue the conversation.

3. Ask her opinion or advice. Perhaps she has an exotic drink or enticing entree. Lean over and ask her what is in the drink or dish, if she likes it, and if she would recommend it.

4. Pay her a compliment. Odds are she is dressed to impress, sometimes a simple, "You look amazing," rewards her efforts with your recognition. Don't go overboard with flattery. Keep it short, sweet and sincere.

5. Follow up the compliment with a question, if possible. For example if you see a beautiful woman walking her dog at the park, say, "What a great dog," and then ask her the name and breed of the dog to keep the conversation going.

6. Take her off guard by asking her a question she isn't expecting. Ask something like, "Would you rather be invisible or be able to fly?" Not only does this get her thinking, it issues an unspoken challenge to come up with her own question for you to continue the game.

7. Keep it low-key and light in tone. The more fun you make the interaction, the more likely she is to stay involved. Make a wry observation about your surroundings, or even a self-deprecating remark about yourself to demonstrate your good humor.

Tips & Warnings

• Act fast when you see someone interesting to approach. This helps you pounce on an opportunity before you lose your nerve, but it also keeps the interaction more natural. Don't waste a lot of time rehearsing your approach. Be open to responding to the moment.

References

• Match.com: Conversation Starters From the Pros
• eHarmony: 5 Great Conversation Starters

Resources

• Would You Rather?