How to Make a Daughter's Boyfriend Feel Comfortable When He Visits
Most parents dread meeting their daughter's boyfriend for the first time. It is a nerve-wracking experience for all involved: Your daughter will want to make sure that both you and her boyfriend feel comfortable, her boyfriend will be nervous about meeting you for the first time, and you'll be apprehensive about letting your daughter date or about meeting a stranger. However, even if you and your daughter are in agreement about her having a boyfriend and you're eager to meet him, he may still show signs of being nervous.
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Recite any rules about dating to your daughter privately before her boyfriend arrives. If you’ve given your daughter a curfew or informed her of places she's to avoid, remind her privately. Reciting this information in front of her boyfriend can make him feel uncomfortable and nervous.
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Invite him to dinner. Make a small meal -- nothing too formal or extravagant. Making a casual lunch or dinner is best, as it isn't too stuffy and will communicate a more comfortable vibe to your daughter’s boyfriend.
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Don't ask too many personal questions. The first couple of times that you meet your daughter's boyfriend, do not ask questions about his family or questions that may be hard for a teen to answer, such as, “What do you want to do for living?” or, “What are your future goals?”. These questions may cause him to feel uncomfortable or even prompt him to be untruthful for fear of your disapproval.
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Gather some background information on your daughter's boyfriend from your daughter. Ask about his hobbies or things that interest him so you can talk about them when you meet him. Talking about familiar subjects will help him to feel more comfortable.
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Greet your daughter's boyfriend with a warm smile and a handshake when he comes into the house. This will cause him to feel welcome.
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Do not lecture him about sex or other topics of a sensitive nature. Talk to your daughter about this subject alone before he arrives.
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