How to Get Privacy in a Dorm Room

Check to see if single rooms are available at your college.

Many people have stories to tell about their college dormitory experiences. Some recall meeting new friends, getting involved in study groups or becoming student government representatives for their dorms. Others, though, have stories about difficult roommates and invasions of privacy. Though finding privacy in a tiny room that you share with another young adult is challenging, it can be done. You must be up front with your roommate about your expectations and willing to give a little to make her comfortable as well.

Instructions

1. Reserve the type of dorm room that meets your privacy needs. Although dorms with single rooms are rare, many colleges have quads, which have two bedrooms that accommodate two students each and a living space that all four share. Though you must still share space in a quad, the extra room makes it easier to have a private conversation or study.

2. Create a privacy schedule with your roommate. Carve out blocks of time in which each of you can use the room privately. Post the schedule, and agree to discuss any changes or requests for additional privacy, such as if you have to study for an important exam or have a date. Evaluate and revise the schedule regularly to reflect changes in each person's class and work schedules.

3. Buy or make a room divider. Folding screen dividers can be stored behind a door or under a bed when not in use, saving space in a small dorm room. You can make a divider by hanging a piece of nylon string from the ceiling and mounting a curtain, or simply using thumbtacks to hang fabric between the two sides of the room.

Tips & Warnings

• When you have a roommate whom you can't stand, no amount of privacy is enough. Avoid this situation by taking advantage of your university's attempts to match you with a suitable roommate. Fill out roommate questionnaires and return them by the due date. Check out your university's themed housing options, such as housing for people with certain majors or substance-free housing, to see if you fit any of these niche areas.

• If your roommate does not respect your privacy, talk to him about it. If the behavior continues, go to your resident assistant or resident director. Do not use tactics like locking your roommate out of the room or moving his belongings. These tactics can quickly get you into trouble, even if he's the one who has been snooping through your stuff or listening to your phone conversations.

References

• College Board: College Dorms
• Spark Notes: Dorm Life
• University Language Services: College Dorms: What to Expect