How to Compromise a Solution to a Problem With a Rude Co-worker

Confronting your colleague in a respectful, direct manner can help you reach a compromise.

Dealing with a rude, obnoxious or otherwise difficult co-worker can try the patience of even the most saintly person. You can ignore the co-worker for a while, but you'll have to work together at some point. Compromise is an important component of cooperation and teamwork in the workplace. Although it may seem difficult, it's possible to reach a compromise solution with a rude co-worker.

Instructions

1. Discuss your feelings with someone you trust before trying to talk to your co-worker. Venting your concerns and frustrations about your co-worker before you attempt a discussion with him can help you approach the situation more calmly and rationally.

2. Attempt a one-on-one conversation with your co-worker. Before bringing in supervisors or managers, try to discuss the issue with your co-worker. You might say something like, "I know we don't always see eye to eye on certain issues, but because we have to work together on this project, I think it's best if we can talk about it and come to a reasonable compromise."

3. Stay on the topic and avoid getting into personal details. Avoid name-calling or finger-pointing and be willing to look at your own role in the situation. Use "I" statements when discussing your ideas and feelings. Focus on your common goal and purpose, advises the online magazine Socialtik Mag.

4. Document your attempts to discuss the situation or problem with your co-worker. It's prudent to have this documentation should the situation escalate and you need to show your supervisor that you tried to reach a compromise solution with your co-worker.

5. Consult your company's employee assistance program (EAP) if you have one. An EAP is a useful resource when you have work-related problems or issues that affect your job performance. An EAP adviser or counselor must keep your inquiry and conversations confidential. To disclose any information, the counselor must obtain your consent in advance, except in life-threatening situations.

6. Seek the advice of your supervisor, union representative or mediator, if necessary. If you feel that your colleague is not being receptive to your efforts, calling in your supervisor or an advocate may be the only way to address the situation.

References

• Socialtik Mag: How to Compromise at Work
• U.S. Office of Personnel Management: Confidentiality and the Employee Assistance Program