How to Deal With Breaking Up at Work
You deal with a whole range of emotions following the breakup of a relationship, even if it was your idea. Grief, depression, anger, sadness and fear might accompany feelings of relief and a bittersweet sense that all hope is not lost. When the breakup occurs at work, an additional set of issues surrounds the situation. When the ex-partner is a co-worker, supervisor or your employee, you have a new set of dynamics to consider. You can implement several strategies to help you deal with breaking up at work.
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Go through the grieving process. You are dealing with a loss, and you won't be able to stuff those emotions without negative physical consequences. But there is a time and place for everything, and work is not the place to grieve, especially in this situation.
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Take some time off. You have suffered an emotional loss. Much like you would take time off for a funeral, give yourself permission to take a break from your job, even if it's just for a day or two. Schedule more time off in another month, as well. Even if you stay in town, just knowing you have some emotional space will bring you healing.
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Express your emotions; avoid keeping them bottled up. Find a support group -- online or locally -- that will help you process through your grief, if needed.
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Focus on your job. The routine of work can help heal your heart. Think about what you are doing, and concentrate on each task. Avoid taking on new or big projects until you have given yourself time to process through your breakup.
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Avoid big decisions. You have suffered a shock, and now is not the time to make any drastic life changes. Wait to take another job, move to a new city or even buy a new house. Most important, wait to start a new relationship. Give yourself time to settle into your identity as a single person.
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Get extra rest at night. Your body feels drained, both physically and emotionally. You need sleep to allow your body to recover from all you are dealing with.
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Find some activities you love to do, and have fun participating in them. They will distract you and bring you enjoyment during this difficult time in your life. You can learn a craft, read or exercise. All types of sports -- such as hang gliding, kayaking, skating or walking -- help relieve stress. Crafts provide a productive and creative outlet. Reading or watching movies also give you a therapeutic, albeit temporary, diversion.
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Tips & Warnings
Avoid bad-mouthing your ex at work, while talking with other employees. No matter what his work relationship is to you -- co-worker, boss or employee -- you are the one who will look bad. If you need to vent, write a journal or talk to a friend or family member who has no ties to your place of employment. If you still need help, consider seeking professional assistance.
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