How to Help Someone Who Has Lost a Brother

Supporting those that have lost a loved one is a great way to show you care.

The loss of a brother can be difficult and different from any other type of loss. Even if their brother was a child, those left behind may not be able to remember life before the birth of their brother. The type of relationship the siblings had will greatly effect your friend's grief. The desire to help a mourning friend is natural. By keeping your focus on their comfort and needs, you will be able to help them work through this difficult time.

Instructions

1. Assure their basic needs are met. At times, those deep in mourning are unable to properly care for themselves. Eating and basic hygiene are often tasks that are overlooked. If necessary, check to see they are taking any daily medications and encourage normal activities.

2. Listening to your friend can be the most powerful thing you do. Often times, siblings can be overlooked as the focus is directed toward the parents. Remember to focus on your friend and the special bond that exists between a family's children. Listen to them while they work through any denial, feelings of loss or sadness. It is important to allow them any feelings without judgment. You may find it uncomfortable to sit while your friend cries or expresses strong feelings, but these are important parts of the grief process. Focusing on meeting your friend's needs will make listening easier.

3. Adapt to your friend's needs. Some people will travel through the mourning process with little help while others will need more assistance. Some people may find a physical activity therapeutic, while another may want to talk much more. Remember that the loss of a brother may require a shift in your friend's role in their family, and your friend may need to come to terms with that as well. Careful observation and questioning will tell you how to best meet your friend's needs.

4. Encourage your friend to seek out a medical professional. A therapist can offer mourning assistance specifically tailored to the loss of a brother while monitoring any unhealthy coping mechanisms. A medical doctor will be able to track the effects of stress and care for any physical results of the process. Both professionals can suggest sibling loss support groups or offer advice on how to best cope.

Tips & Warnings

• Helping someone cope with grief can be overwhelming. Keep your focus on assisting your friend and making her as comfortable as possible.

References

• Celebrations.com: How to cope with bereavement
• Mayo Clinic: Support and bereavement groups
• Supportofficer.org: Death of a Brother or Sister