How to Get Divorced Amicably

Make every effort to avoid escalating the anger.

A marriage headed for divorce no doubt has plenty of conflict. Arguments, hurt feelings and tears may be frequent. Divorce, even though a step to end the problems, still causes further stress and heartache. However, these problems can be minimized when the divorce proceedings are as amicable as possible, where both partners have accepted the need for a divorce and the need to work to achieve it in an agreeable manner. It may not erase the hurt, but can minimize the stress.

Instructions

1. Accept that emotions are likely to flare up. You want to be strong, but divorce causes you to suffer a wide range of difficult emotions. Know that these won’t last forever. Accept that you and your spouse both must endure a grieving process, which likely will include anger, regret, disbelief, guilt and other emotions.

2. Prepare for the divorce. Make a plan for how to proceed as amicably as possible. Give yourselves plenty of time, if necessary.

3. Understand the divorce process. Understand your financial situation, what may happen if you have kids and the other situations that are likely to arise once you’re divorced. Learning what’s in store can help soften the blow when the time comes. Consult with a trusted lawyer for advice.

4. Seek help from a counselor or therapist. They can provide guidance for how to divorce amicably, as well as act as a mediator.

5. Leave your ego at the door. Avoid insulting your spouse to your children. Don’t try to turn your children against your spouse. This only creates further problems.

References

• Divorce360: 5 Simple Steps: Divorcing Amicably
• Divorce360; Breaking Up With Style; Michele Kimball

Resources

• Divorce Support: Amicable Divorce