How to Deal With a Verbally Abusive Ex-Boyfriend
Keeping contact with a verbally abusive ex-boyfriend is never a good idea. Depending on your situation, you may not be able to get him out of your life -- you may still live with him, or he may hang around with people in your social group, whether it's your friends or family. Feeling a strong emotional attachment to your ex-boyfriend can make matters worse, but you need to move past him and focus on your mental health.
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Tell him that he is being verbally abusive, that your relationship has ended and you no longer want to be in contact with him. Letting him know that you no longer want to see him will help with the transition to a life without him.
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Cut off all contact with him. The fortunate thing about him being your ex-boyfriend is that you don't have to take additional steps to break up with him.
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Make other people aware of the verbal abuse. Informing mutual acquaintances of the verbal abuse may stop him from talking to you, because he may concerned about what other people think.
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Assert yourself independently. He needs to realize that you don't need him, and that you have a life without him. He may be telling himself that he is a part of your life. Show him that your life is complete without him.
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Love yourself and give yourself attention. You will more easily manage the strain of the ex-boyfriend and your own life if you start respecting yourself and taking actions that contribute to your overall well-being.
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Define who you are. Don't let your ex-boyfriend dictate your self-worth. No one should ever cut you down; knowing who you are will help you stand up for yourself.
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Tips & Warnings
Some women find it hard to let go of an ex-boyfriend, even if he is verbally abusive; it may feel like there is a void left without him. Identifying who you are will help you get rid of him for good, and will end the needless abuse.
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