How to Maintain the Spark in Your Relationship
A relationship is an evolving entity that grows just like a plant or tree. Once it sprouts to life, it needs proper care and attention to thrive, otherwise it could wither and die. For long term relationships this takes concentrated effort on the part of both lovers to keep the fire burning long past that initial spark. Love goes beyond what you say or feel and turns instead into an action. With the proper priorities you both can create a romantic game plan that will keep the spark lit.
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Commit to date nights. Once you marry and have a family, time together to focus solely on the relationship becomes harder to carve out of your busy day. Make this time together a priority, and make it as special on your 100th date as it was that very first time you went out. Dress up, go to a fancy restaurant or go dancing. Take it out of the mundane.
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Surprise your lover with thoughtful gifts, just because. Valentine's Day or anniversaries are a given. In-between gifts, like notes hidden in work clothes or flowers and cards, tell that special someone just how special you think she is and bring a little romance back into the relationship in small but meaningful ways.
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Keep your love life spicy. After years together, desire can become routine. Be adventurous and break out of stale patterns. Buy lotions, learn how to give a proper massage, or buy erotic games to learn how to explore each other in exciting new ways.
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Touch each other outside the bedroom. In the hustle and bustle of everyday life it becomes all too easy to grow complacent when it comes to affection. But those brushes of hands or kisses before or after one comes home from work help keep you connected in an intimate way that doesn't require sex to bond.
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Talk to each other, and not just about bills or the kids. You don't have to wait for date night to connect on an intellectual and emotional level. Have real conversations about how you feel, and find ways to laugh together.
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Get active together. Go for walks, go biking together, join a dance class. Find ways to involve your lover in your recreation so that everything isn't always about the work it takes to maintain your relationship. Make fun together a priority.
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Take a vacation. If possible go on a couples-only vacation so that you can renew the relationship in a completely new environment. Book a weekend at a bed-and-breakfast, or maybe just spend one night at the nicest hotel in town.
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