How to Ask Your Girlfriends to Be Your Bridesmaids

Have fun when you ask your friends to be your bridesmaids.

Choosing your bridesmaids for your big day takes a lot of thought for some people. For others, there is no question who to ask. However, actually asking your girlfriends to be your bridesmaids can seem much harder than it is. Most women feel honored when their friend asks them to be a bridesmaid. When you want to ask your girlfriends to be part of your wedding party, make it a special experience that everyone remembers.

Instructions

1. Make personalized cards for each girl you want to be a bridesmaid in your wedding. Use blank card stock with an elegant cover. Write what you want to say inside the card using a nice pen. You can even write a letter to each girl if you do not want to use a card. Explain in the card or letter why you want each girl to be your bridesmaid. At the end of the card or letter, ask your friend to be your bridesmaid. Place the card or letter in a pretty envelope. Write each friend’s name on the card you wrote for her.

2. Invite all of your girlfriends to your place for “girl time.” Tell each friend that you plan on making dinner and just having a nice, low-key evening. Make it known when you invite your girlfriends over that you do not want any significant others around that night.

3. Make dinner for your friends. Include a nice bottle of wine and dessert. Set everything up at the table. On top of each friend’s plate, place the card you made asking your friend to be a bridesmaid.

4. Before everyone eats, have each girl open her card and read it at the same time. Once everyone reads her card, ask them as a group if they are all willing to be bridesmaids.

Tips & Warnings

• If you have girlfriends that live in different places, send a letter to each girl through the mail or through email.

• You do not have to ask your girlfriends in a group setting. Instead, meet each one individually and ask.

• Always ask the person you want to be your maid of honor before you ask the girls you want to be your bridesmaids. When you ask your maid of honor, ask in person if you can. The maid of honor is the main person in your wedding party. Treat the position and the person with respect.

• Have fun with asking your girlfriends to be your bridesmaids. Make a game out of it. For example, create a scavenger hunt that sends your friends all over town until they find the letter that asks them all at the same time. Have the girls start out at a bar or at your house and use easy clues to get the to the correct place.

• If your friends have smart phones or a GPS, consider making a geo-cache and having your friends find it using their phones.

• Do not feel obligated to ask family or certain friends to be part of your wedding party. Only ask people that you truly want to be part of your important day. Remember, your wedding pictures and memories will feature the people in your wedding party.

References

• Wedding Fanatic: Ways to Pop the Question to Your Bridesmaids; Katie; February 2010
• Upper East: How to Ask a Bridesmaid

Resources

• The Knot: Bridesmaids: How to Choose Your Bridesmaids