How to Be a Good Matchmaker Consultant
Matchmaking is not only a profession, it is an activity that many of us will perform for a friend, family member or colleague at some point in our life. Whenever we set up a friend on a blind date or attempt to bring two people together, we do so with the belief that they are compatible. Anyone can be a matchmaker, but to get paid to do it, you must master the ability to assess compatibility.
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Learn to be non-judgmental and open-minded. This is one of the most important characteristics for a matchmaker. A client is less likely to open up to you if she feels you are judgmental. If a client is hesitant to share her past, wants and desires, if will be difficult to match her.
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Practice discretion when dealing with a client. No matter how bizarre his requirements or how weird his history, you must keep their business personal. Your client must be able to trust you.
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Care for your client's emotional needs and build empathy for his fears and doubts. Even the most powerful men in the world suffer from fears. It is important to understand them in order to find a mate who can remove these fears.
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Learn your client's past to get an idea of what went wrong in his past relationships. Does he understand why his previous relationships have not worked? For instance, is he selecting women who aren't affectionate when he requires a lot of affection. Does he take any responsibility for the destruction of these relationships?
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Assess your client's character. Through simple conversation, you can gauge your client's temperament, her quirks, her personality flaws as well as her positive attributes. A temperamental woman may be comforted by calm-natured man. A materialistic woman will be most attracted to a man with financial means.
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Ask questions about your client's interest. A football fan may be incompatible with a woman who detest sports. A person who loves to travel internationally is not compatible with one who is scared to fly.
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Ask your client what she is looking for. Encourage her to be frank and honest. Write a list of the physical and personality traits she likes. Also, if she has income, educational, family and any other requirements for a future mate, take note of these things.
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Speak honestly about what your client needs to do to attract the right person. Suggest your client shave or iron his clothes, if necessary. Be willing to tell your client what he needs to do to improve and work on himself, without implying that he needs to change everything about who he is inside. Suggesting that a client go to the gym as a way to build his self-worth is not the same as telling a client that he is too overweight to find a compatible match, which would be demeaning.
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Dress professionally and carry yourself in a professional manner. Remember that you are a professional matchmaker, and you are getting paid to perform a service.
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