How to Have the Courage to Ask Your Crush Out on a Date

Someone else will snatch your crush up if you're too scared.

No matter how long you stare at your crush in math class, wishing he would miraculously notice and ask you out, if you don't do anything about it, you're just going to continue pining away for him. When he starts dating someone, you'll be heartbroken and kick yourself for not asking him out when you had the chance. Having confidence in yourself and looking at him as an equal are important steps in developing the courage you need to ask your crush out.

Instructions

1. Double-check your self image. A lot of your fears about asking your crush out may stem from your insecurities. You may not feel that you are pretty enough or smart enough for him. If you have a negative self image, it is reflected in how you are carry yourself. Work on accepting and loving yourself completely if you are overly self-conscious. You may just need a new haircut, or a new outfit to boost your confidence. When your confidence grows, you will have less fear about talking to your crush.

2. Find out if he's into you. Knowing beforehand that he may actually like you too will make it so much easier for you to ask him out. If your crush tries to engage you in conversation all the time, it's a good sign he's at least curious about you. When you make eye contact, smile at him briefly. Take it as another good sign if he gives you a genuine smile back.

3. Learn how to be relaxed around him. The next time you see your crush, don't tense up. Take him off the pedestal you have him on and remind yourself that he is human and imperfect despite how adorable you think he is. Give a casual, "Hey," when he passes by and a light smile. Act as normal as possible, even a little unimpressed. When you can see him as being on the same level as you, it will be much easier to talk to him.

4. Strike up a conversation with him. Once you're confident that he's interested in you, engage him in conversation when he's by himself. You can initiate this by coming up with a reason to talk to him, such as to ask him a question about the math homework, or by "accidentally" bumping into him.

5. Ask him out in casual manner. During your conversation with your crush, mention that you are going or doing something that he may be interested in. For instance, if you know he loves action movies, mention that you plan on going to the midnight screening of the latest action blockbuster. He may just ask to come along on his own, which you can then casually respond with, "Sure, why not?" If he doesn't, you can say, "Let me know if you want to come." That way there is no pressure and it doesn't seem like you are explicitly asking him out, if for some reason he says "No."

Tips & Warnings

• When engaging your crush in a conversation, find out what his interests are, such as hip-hop, football or hiking, and ask him a question about it that he can inform you about.

References

• Match.com; Women: Make Your Move; Maggie Kim
• "Seventeen" magazine: How to Get Your Crush
• Got A Crush? The Ultimate Guide to Approaching Men

Resources

• "Wired" magazine; Play It Cool In Front Of Your Crush; November 2009
• A New Mode: Ask A Guy: Signs He Does Not Like You