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Step 1
Abandon any plans to reassert your position. Now is not the time. Your objective is to repair damage and smooth things over. If you can't do this, then you're not ready for flowers.
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Step 2
Search your brain for clues about what kind of flowers she likes. Of course, you've had many chances to pay attention. Don't beat yourself up about it now. If you're not absolutely sure what she favors, get red roses or Casablanca lilies. See How to Buy a Bouquet of Roses.
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Step 3
Have the flowers delivered to her at work or in a public place, if possible. Call a florist and place the order. Expect to pay at least $50, and maybe more. Do not forget to include a card and sweet message. Don't worry about exposing yourself--the florist has seen worse screwups than you.
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Step 4
If you can't have flowers delivered, go to the florist yourself. Give a quick outline of the situation and ask them for a suggestion. Stay away from carnations or baby's breath. They have "supermarket checkout" written all over them.
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Step 5
Deliver the flowers immediately. Do not stop off for "one quick beer" on the way.
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Step 6
Offer an unconditional apology. Your goal is to be finished with this incident. If you think more discussion is needed, wait a week and bring it up when both of you are alert, stress-free and eventempered.
Comments
Anonymous said
on 8/22/2006 My boyfriend usually brings flowers to my place of work when he's messed up, and the best time was when he picked a bunch of fairly common, simple wildflowers from various places around town. I melted, and out of all the roses and lilies he's bought me, those are the only ones I've dried and saved. Much more heartfelt than a store-bought bouquet, I feel.
Anonymous said
on 7/10/2006 Unless they're her favorite flower, avoid the red roses. They're just so generic, and feel like you just got flowers because you're in trouble. Find something more personal.