How to Get Someone to Buy You a Drink
Decades of sexual equality and social progress have achieved only so much. Approaching someone in a bar can still be treacherous. Is a woman being unacceptably forward if she asks a man to buy her a drink? Is a man violating some rule if he expects a woman to buy him a drink? Who cares? Just have fun, don't be a jerk, and you'll be OK.
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Instructions
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Experiment. Walk up to your target and say, "How about buying me a drink?" You know you'll at least get a reaction, so be ready with some light conversation.
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Don't be obnoxious. Your goal is not to get free alcohol, but to meet someone. Even if he or she thinks it's weird that you're asking for a drink, a show of personality or humor should be enough to move things along.
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Employ the obvious backup position, if necessary: Offer to buy your target a drink.
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Don't push too hard. Be lighthearted and casual. Your target may decline now, but there's a chance you'll bump into the person again in an hour or so.
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Don't try to isolate your target from his or her friends. Be friendly to the whole group, and increase your chances of appearing desirable.
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Plan an escape route. Some people think that if they buy you a drink, they're buying rights to you for the entire evening.
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Tips & Warnings
Don't worry about looking like an idiot. Everyone looks like one sometimes.
If you get a nasty reaction from someone, it probably says more about his or her attitude than your technique.
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Comments
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Jun 30, 2006
I personally like a sassy lass and am more turned on to a person if she makes the first move. However, very few move this on and become coy once more. I don't think it's cute to be coy. Have a number of conversation points to move to if one appears dead in the water. Don't build your hopes up, it can show in your body language and appear desperate. This can easily turn a guy off. If all else fails, don't be afraid of gaining his attention with feminine moves or the occasional body contact. -
Jun 30, 2006
I personally like a sassy lass and am more turned on to a person if she makes the first move. However, very few move this on and become coy once more. I don't think it's cute to be coy. Have a number of conversation points to move to if one appears dead in the water. Don't build your hopes up, it can show in your body language and appear desperate. This can easily turn a guy off. If all else fails, don't be afraid of gaining his attention with feminine moves or the occasional body contact.
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Jan 13, 2006
After a month traveling in Europe on a budget, I have become an expert at the free night out. All a gal really needs to subsidize her good time is a warm smile and some sass. Genuine and sincere interest in meeting people, coupled with a genuine and sincere interest in the perfect appletini are considerable assets. Being stark-raving mad and proud of it helps, too. Gay men particularly love a good Holly Golightly or even an Auntie Mame. Also, search your purse like it is absolutely bottomless when it's time to pony up. The tab magically gets paid. And mind you, I am neither young nor skinny- just a good time disguised as a desperate housewife! La Dolce Vita!!
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Nov 22, 2005
Don't throw your empty cup or bottle away. Use it as a prop to start a conversation with a guy at the bar. If he notices that you need a refill, chances are that he will offer to help you out, but remember to smile.
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Nov 22, 2005
If a guy asks you to dance, say you only dance when you're drunk. They will buy you a drink right then and there!
