How to Identify a Victim of Spousal Abuse

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Spousal abuse may take the form of physical, emotional, sexual or financial abuse and verbal threats of violence.

Instructions

Difficulty: Moderately Easy

Step1
Look for signs of fear in the victim when he or she is around the suspected abuser.
Step2
Note whether the victim makes excuses for the suspected abuser's anger or violent temper.
Step3
Look for signs of alcohol or drug abuse by the victim or the suspected abuser.
Step4
Find out if either the victim or suspected abuser has a family history of abuse.
Step5
Note whether the victim displays an unhealthy dependence on the suspected abuser, either financially, socially or emotionally.
Step6
Look for bruises, limping, sores or poor health.
Step7
Consider frequent or unexplainable absences from work or a decrease in productivity as signs of possible domestic violence.

Tips & Warnings

  • Understand that nobody deserves to be abused. If you suspect someone is being abused, take action immediately.
  • Call the National Domestic Violence hotline at (800) 799-7233 if you suspect spousal abuse.

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on 6/17/2008 don't complain, i pay $759 a month in child support to my ex husband, after he fought me for custody and the only thing he had on his side was money. I was left penniless when he filed for divorce, then he takes this amt from my minimum wage job (after i was a stay at home mom for 10 years). He makes 53000.00 per year as a lowly e-6 in the us coast guard!!!! Thank our government for this! He abused me verbally and mentally during the marriage, now he's abusing me financially after the divorce and the military advocates for its members while it screws the wives.

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on 6/9/2008 What to do if you are a victim of financial abuse?

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on 6/9/2008 I have a difficult situation here, because I am not victim of physical abuse, but financial abuse. We have three children and he just wiped the joint account leaving it with $140. Please, don't tell me to get a job, I do work, but my income pales in comparison.

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on 2/23/2008 Many cases of abuse are not apparent and do not cross into the field of physical abuse. Having a partner who in any way tries to control you or your behavior with actions of their own which one would consider confining or effects their self esteem it is indeed abuse. If a partner who is addressed with an issue and constantly turns a rational discussion into an irrational argument to point the discussion away from themselves which draws you away from the point even to the point of violence even though it may not be directed at you again it is a sign of abuse. Abuse is not deserved, provoked, brought on or deserved by anyone. Another point I would like to make is if you begin to behave in the same manner as the abuser you yourself are becoming an abuser even if you do not realize it. Recognize the signs early and get help ASAP. Break the cycle before it breaks you.

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on 2/23/2008 Many cases of abuse are not apparent and do not cross into the field of physical abuse. Having a partner who in any way tries to control you or your behavior with actions of their own which one would consider confining or effects their self esteem it is indeed abuse. If a partner who is addressed with an issue and constantly turns a rational discussion into an irrational argument to point the discussion away from themselves which draws you away from the point even to the point of violence even though it may not be directed at you again it is a sign of abuse. Abuse is not deserved, provoked, brought on or deserved by anyone. Another point I would like to make is if you begin to behave in the same manner as the abuser you yourself are becoming an abuser even if you do not realize it. Recognize the signs early and get help ASAP. Break the cycle before it breaks you.

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