How to Talk to Your Child About Drugs

The most important thing to remember when it comes to talking about difficult subjects like drinking and drugs is that it's not about a 5-minute "talk" - it's about building an ongoing dialogue. These guidelines follow the recommendations of the White House Office of National Drug Control Policy.

Difficulty: Moderate

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

• Televisions

1. Be absolutely clear with your kids that you don't want them using drugs. Ever. Anywhere. Don't leave room for interpretation.

2. Talk often about the dangers and results of drug and alcohol abuse. Once or twice per year won't do it.

3. Be a better listener. Ask questions and encourage them. Paraphrase what your child says to you. Ask for your children's input about family decisions.

4. Give honest answers. Some parents who used drugs in the past choose to lie about it, but they risk losing their credibility if their children discover the truth. This does not mean that you need to recount every moment of your experience - some details should remain private.

5. Ask clarifying questions to make sure you understand exactly what your child is asking, and why, before answering questions about your past drug use, and limit your response to that information.

6. Use TV reports, antidrug commercials, news or school discussions about drugs to help you introduce the subject in a natural, unforced way.

7. Don't react in a way that will cut off further discussion. If your child makes statements that challenge or shock you, turn them into a calm discussion of why your child thinks people use drugs, or whether the effect is worth the risk.

8. Role-play with your child and practice ways to refuse drugs and alcohol in different situations. Acknowledge how tough these moments can be.

Tips & Warnings

• It's never too early to show that you take your kids seriously; the questions will come as soon as they learn to talk.
• Showing your willingness to listen will make your child feel more comfortable about opening up to you.
• Although virtually all parents in America (98 percent) say they've talked with their children about drugs, only 27 percent of teens - roughly one in four - say they're learning a lot at home about the risks of drugs.

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[ecm1980]

on 5/1/2009 the role playing tip is a great one. We have already begun doing that with our 6 year old.

[zemzem82]

on 1/31/2009 great advice for when my daughter gets older. Thanx-zemzem.ecrater.com

[abigail]

on 4/18/2007 Watch for, and take advantage of, opportunities to fit it into the conversation naturally. That way they're less likely to take it personally or think you're accusing them of something.

on 11/22/2005 Your children will most likely find out about drugs on their own, but remember there is a difference between using drugs and abusing them. If they use drugs responsibly, you will most likely never know about it. However, if they abuse drugs, you will find out. Drug abuse is marked by self-destructive behavior. This can include addiction, overdosing, and pretty much becoming a danger to oneself. Abuse is easiest to fall prey to with hard, physically addictive drugs such as heroin and cocaine.

on 11/22/2005 Make it clear to your kids that doing drugs is unacceptable, but not in a threatening way. I am a drug counselor, and I know that threats are the wrong way to go.