How to Refuse a Date to Ensure No More Requests

Unless you want to be asked out again by this person, be direct and leave no room for misinterpretation.

Difficulty: Moderately Easy

Instructions

1. Be clear, consistent and gracious in your refusal. Be politely neutral rather than emphatic.

2. Don't hesitate, procrastinate or ask to think about it.

3. Express regret, if you'd like, but never say anything you don't mean, such as, 'Maybe another time.'

4. Devise an impersonal, generic explanation if you prefer, such as, 'I never date co-workers' or 'I'm involved with someone else.' Otherwise, simply refuse the invitation with a polite 'Thank you for thinking of me. I'm sorry I'll have to say no.'

Tips & Warnings

• If a person persists in asking you out, just persist in being firm and clear. Sooner or later, you'll get the message across.

[monica82]

on 7/30/2009 I'm glad I don't have to worry about this anymore, but when I was single I always wondered how to politely, but firmly refuse a date. Good advice!

[jull14]

on 7/20/2009 Wonderful article, thanks for sharing with us.

[Troyster]

on 7/20/2009 I've always said the system would work so much better if we just let the ladies do the asking.

[shekwonyadu]

on 7/2/2009 Very good idea.infact i get alot of askees and most times i am just tired and don know what to tell'em but now i get it.tanx

[ResearchJunkie]

on 5/7/2009 I learned this the hard way - and ended up having another guy friend tell the weirdo to leave me alone!