Romantic Way to Ask for Forgiveness

Adding a romantic touch to your apology can soften your lover's heart.

No matter how idyllic your relationship is, there will be times when you hurt your romantic partner and need to ask for forgiveness. You might unintentionally break something, or forget an important date. Your partner probably won't stay mad forever, but it's nice to ask for forgiveness at times like these. It can also help to add a romantic gesture to your apology to show that you are sincere. Asking for forgiveness in a romantic way not only repairs your relationship, it can strengthen it.

Instructions

1. Present flowers to your partner when you ask for forgiveness. Use flowers from your own garden, or ask a friend's or neighbor's permission to cut flowers from hers. Alternatively, visit a florist and make up a custom bouquet of your lover's favorite flowers. When in doubt, use white roses as a flag of truce.

2. Help your partner out. If you live together, take on a chore that he usually does. If you live separately, run an errand he's been meaning to do, like picking up dry cleaning or washing his car.

3. Make a card or write a letter. Sometimes, you'll need to have a discussion with your partner before she forgives you. A sincere letter is a non-confrontational way to communicate, and it may soften your partner's feelings. Deliver the letter at an unexpected time or place to surprise your partner.

4. Get artistic. It doesn't matter whether you have talent, it just matters that you make an effort. Write a poem, sing a song, make a video or photo essay or draw a picture for your partner that communicates how you are feeling. It is helpful to admit you were wrong when asking for forgiveness. To make your art or writing more romantic, allude to a fond memory that the two of you share.

5. Ask for forgiveness over a romantic dinner, or invite your partner to dinner when you ask for forgiveness. Make reservations at your partner's favorite restaurant, or cook something at home and light some candles. If your partner doesn't wish to meet you for dinner, move onto dessert -- try leaving a bag of homemade cookies at his door.

Tips & Warnings

• Be sincere -- don't try to bribe your partner into granting you forgiveness.

• Don't put your partner into a situation where he is forced to accept your apology. If he wasn't ready to do this, it could cause resentment.

References

• Support 4 Change; Asking For Forgiveness; Joyce and Barry Vissell
• Perfect Apology: Creative Ways to Say Sorry
• Creative Dating Ideas: Ways To Say Sorry