How to Live With a Recluse

Reclusive people are socially withdrawn and sometimes depressed.

Reclusive behavior can be a sign of an illness as serious as schizophrenia or simply a person's desire to be alone. Communication with reclusive people is either challenging or impossible, making living with them very difficult. Coexist peacefully with a recluse by respecting each other's space, communicating in alternative ways, such as through notes, and avoid making loud noise or inviting too many people over at one time.

Instructions

1. Create boundaries within your home. This shouldn't upset either of you; instead, it should be an opportunity to create quiet spaces that are off limits to the other person. Respect each other's private space at all times.

2. Form a plan to communicate. Even though you live together, email, text messages or handwritten notes are alternative ways to communicate with someone who is a recluse. You must communicate in order to live together in order to discuss bills, repairs or other issues.

3. Keep noise levels at a minimum. If you live with a recluse, you'll have to plan social gatherings elsewhere. Don't play loud music, talk too loudly on the phone or invite too many people over at once.

Tips & Warnings

• Reclusive behavior can be a sign of a serious mental illness. If you think this is the case, contact a mental health counselor for advice.

References

• Keirsey.com: Getting Along with Your Roommate
• Experience Project: I Prefer a Reclusive Life

Resources

• HikiCulture: A Forum for Reclusive People