How to Get Over a Workplace Crush

Getting over a workplace crush can be challenging.

Most of us have experienced a crush on a fellow employee. It is quite natural and easy to develop feelings for people we spend a great deal time with. Getting over a crush can be difficult, but getting over a workplace crush can be more challenging, because the person trying to get over the crush may not have the luxury of distancing himself from his object of affection. Fortunately, there are ways to move on.

Instructions

1. Distance yourself from the person. If you are seated next to the person, ask to be moved to a different area. Attempt to take breaks at different times and park in a different area of the employee parking lot. Make as little contact as possible with the person.

2. Concentrate on the business at hand and put all of your energy into making yourself a better employee. This will leave less time to focus on activities which should be reserved for your personal time.

3. Improve your social life outside of work. This will make is less likely that you will feel the need to spend work time thinking about members of the opposite sex.

4. Transfer to another department or location if you find it too difficult to get over your workplace crush. Distancing yourself from the crush is vital and sometimes a change of scenery may be needed.

5. Find a partner who does not work with you. This will surely quicken getting over your workplace crush.

Tips & Warnings

• Keep in mind that it's natural to develop feelings for people when we spend a great deal of time with them. You should not feel guilty for developing a crush. Maintaining your professionalism is important in such a situation and it's important that you realize your dedication should be to your employer and that you are not being paid to socialize.

• A crush at work can hurt your career. Workplace crushes can lead to malicious gossip, which will certainly hurt your reputation. Sometimes it can even lead to charges of sexual harassment. Work on socializing outside of work.

References

• Life Script: Healthy Living for Women; Dealing with a Crush at Work; May 2007

Resources

• Career Cast; Help! My Boss Has a Workplace Crush; Donald Asher