How to Move on and Finally Let Go of Your Ex Boyfriend

Do things you love and let go of memories of your boyfriend.

It is possible to survive a breakup with your boyfriend and move on to form a successful future, however impossible it may seem while you're experiencing the crisis. Breakups are opportunities to explore, discover and strengthen yourself. Knowing what to do when you're faced with a breakup helps you cope better with the situation and bounce back from it effectively.

Instructions

1. Face your emotions head-on rather than avoiding or suppressing them. Realize that it's normal to feel an overwhelming grief, rage and pain after a breakup with your boyfriend who you thought was your life; you may also face an identity crisis where you feel as if you've lost a vital part of yourself, which sends you into a panic wondering if you can exist anymore. Remind yourself at every step that these emotions are only temporary.

2. Cope with your emotions by writing what you're undergoing in a journal. Talk to trusted loved ones and friends who just listen to you without judging or giving advice. Use books and Internet resources to know how you can help yourself and overcome a breakup.

3. Live life on day-to-day basis, focusing only on the present moment. Do your favorite things that you couldn't do while you were in the relationship. Eat foods that you love and exercise regularly. Go for a vacation, or walk along the beach and let nature soothe you. Take the breakup as an opportunity to nurture your other interests such as social work and education. Go out with friends, enroll in a gym or cookery class and meet new people; in general indulge in positive activities that make you feel good.

4. Keep off everything that reminds you of your boyfriend, at least until you're able to cope up with your emotions. Remove his photos and contact details from your cell phone and computer, and throw, burn or lock away all his gifts and love messages. Keep away from places and people close to your boyfriend.

References

• Penn State Counseling & Psychological Services; Self-Help Resources - Surviving a Relationship Breakup; Mary Anne Knapp
• Love Panky: How to Get Over a Boyfriend