How to Open Up About Your Feelings to a Guy You Love
Whether you've secretly fallen for your close guy friend or you want tell the guy you've been dating that you're in love, telling him how you feel can be an intimidating task. The fear of rejection prevents many women from telling a guy just how they feel. However, guys are just as scared of rejection, and he may be waiting for you to say something first. Swallow your fears and tell him how you feel, either directly or in a more subtle way, with a few simple tips.
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Wait for the right moment. At the bar with his friends is not a good time to tell your guy that you love him. It's probably not a good idea to bring it up when he's watching a football game, either. Wait for a time when it's just the two of you hanging out. You can choose a secluded, romantic setting or a more public setting if you are worried he might freak out. If you know the guy well, especially if the two of you are already dating, choose the appropriate time and place based on whether he is a more private or public person.
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Just say it. If you are not the beat-around-the-bush kind of person, just talk to him honestly when you are ready. When the two of you are hanging out, you could say something like, "You know I love you, right?" If love is too strong a word, you could simply let him know that it feels like the two of you are more than friends, and you were wondering if he felt the same way. Hopefully this will lead to a conversation about how you both feel.
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Try the subtle approach. If you are too shy to be so direct, try to tell him how you feel in a more casual way. For instance, if the two of you are cooking dinner, you could say something such as, "See this is why I love you; no guy has ever helped me cook before." Or, if you just watched a romantic movie together, you could say something like, "they remind me of how we are when it's just us two." Hopefully he'll respond by asking you what you mean or saying how he feels about you. If he doesn't, you kept it casual enough to be able to act like you never said anything, knowing that he either doesn't feel the same way or he isn't ready to discuss his feelings.
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Write it down. If the thought of telling him directly how you feel when you don't know how he feels is petrifying, the best thing you can do is write it to him. Send an email, write a love letter or send a card -- whatever you do, try not to get too mushy or wordy or it might turn him off. Say what you're too afraid to say to his face -- that you have strong feeling for him and you want to be more than friends, or that even though you've only been dating for a few months, you are falling in love with him and hope he feels the same. If he writes back, calls or wants to meet with you right away, there's a good chance he does feel the same way.
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Tips & Warnings
Don't write down your feelings to him in a public forum such as a social networking website. Not only will you embarrass him, you risk public rejection if he decides to publicly let you know that he doesn't share your feelings.
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