How to Have Rapport With a Girl

Mirror a girl's body language to establish rapport.

Positive communication within a relationship requires work, whether the intended result is a romantic or platonic connection. New meetings present the initial challenge of establishing rapport. Rapport is a feeling of being on the same "wavelength" during a conversation; this level of comfort fosters open sharing of thoughts and ideas. Utilize active listening and body language to build rapport with a girl.

Instructions

1. Mirror her body language. A subtle imitation of her body language subconsciously creates a sense of reciprocity. For example, if she rests her head on her hand, initiate a related movement, such as supporting your chin with your palm.

2. Listen. Absorb the information she conveys -- this is one of the most fundamental, and often overlooked, ways to develop rapport. Avoid the impulse to think about your next statement and simply remain present in the moment.

3. Acknowledge her statements. For example, if she expresses fond memories of a city she visited, encourage her to elaborate. Make a comment that conveys empathy and ask a relevant question, such as "It sounds like you were really affected by that place. Why do you think that was?" to demonstrate interest and make her feel relaxed.

4. Discuss common interests as they emerge. Emphasize similarities in likes, dislikes and personality to further build the rapport between you.

5. Ask questions about her accomplishments. Draw on her earlier statements for clues to the things that hold the most importance to her; this demonstrates genuine interest and appreciation for her, and a willingness to share the limelight.

References

• Attraction Institute: Building Incredible Connections With Women
• Another Way: Building Rapport