How to Deal With Stubborn Children and Homework

Some stubborn children refuse to do their homework.

It is normal for most children at some point to not to want to do their homework. Stubborn children, in particular, who refuse to do their homework can create an exhausting and upsetting experience. If your child continually refuses to do homework, you must develop a healthy homework habit so it becomes part of a child's routine.



A child responds best to homework if you take it serious too. Let him know you are nearby and always available if he requires help, and always praise the child for completing his homework.

Things You'll Need

• Desk or surface for working
• Distraction-free area
• Stationery

Instructions

1. Have an agreed set time and specific place for homework, and stick to it. You can allow the child to set her own homework time themselves, providing it is not too late.

   The homework area should be distraction-free, and with adequate lighting. Try to keep the area as quiet as possible, turn off the TV or radio and take away your child's cell phone.

2. Explain that homework has to be done, and it's a part of school life. If a stubborn child becomes angry and refuses to do the homework at the agreed time, respond in a calm manner that the longer he refuses, the longer the homework time will take. Look through the child's homework before he begins so he understands what he needs to.

3. 

   Rewarding children for completing their homework motivates stubborn children.

   Set a reward scheme. If your child has done 30 minutes of homework, she can watch 30 minutes of television or play outdoors for that time. Explain gently that if she does not do the homework, she will not be allowed to have these rewards.

4. Praise your child for completing his homework. Encourage him to share with you what he has done, and try to engage his attention by discussing his homework achievements.

Tips & Warnings

• Some children may resist doing homework because they do not understand it. Always check with the teacher, and discuss the homework with your child to ensure she understands what's required of her.

• If the stubborn child continues to refuse to do homework, it is very important you stick to the routine and the rules. Respond to her anger and tantrums in a calm and restrained manner.

• You can also bring your child a glass of milk or tea to offer her comfort and refreshment during her homework time.

• Be wary of over-punishing a child who refuses to do his homework. Motivation to do homework can ultimately only be achieved through encouragement, and by your child's learning self-discipline.

References

• "Divas & Dictators"; Charlie Taylor; 2009
• "How to Behave So Your Children Will Too"; Dr. Sal Severe; 1997
• "Confident Parents Remarkable Kids"; Bonnie Harris, M.S.Ed.; 2008