How to Learn Assertiveness
Assertiveness is sometimes mistaken for aggressiveness. An assertive person speaks his mind, but still respects the viewpoints of others. An aggressive person, however, may offend others with name-calling, threats and sarcasm while he shares his viewpoint. Some people shy away from being assertive because they don't want any confrontation. While not everyone may agree with your viewpoint, people often respect you for standing up for yourself.
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Recognize that learning assertiveness will take practice. Rehearse assertive behavior in front of your friends and family members. Ask them to provide feedback about what you're doing right and what you're doing wrong.
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Learn how to say no. If you can't fulfill someone's request, do not feel guilty. Tell him you are unable to fulfill his request in a polite, but firm tone.
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Pay attention to your body language when you communicate. Look the person you are speaking to in the eye, and sit up straight. Do not slouch in your chair or look off to the side.
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Determine how to express your opinion without sounding hostile. Use "I" statements in your conversations to let others know how you feel. Instead of saying, "Your opinion is ridiculous," say, "I don't agree with your viewpoint."
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Learn to control your emotions. Crying or screaming during a conversation with someone won't get your point across. If you feel emotional, take some time to calm yourself down. Take a few deep breaths and drink a glass of water.
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Try a new activity. Take an art class or learn a new language. Volunteer with an organization that has meaning to you. By trying new things, you can build your confidence and go after your dreams.
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