How to Deal With a Breakup While in College

College life offers many opportunities for a speedy post-breakup recovery.

Breakups are always hard, but being in college can add another level of difficulty to the situation. For starters, there may be a distance issue, which actually may have caused the breakup. Or, perhaps one or both of you have deemed it time to move on, after being exposed to the new world of possibilities that college offers. Regardless of the breakup's cause, college presents the perfect opportunity for effectively dealing with a breakup, precisely because of all of those new possibilities.

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Instructions

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  Accept that it's over. Sure, you want to hash things out and plead your case, and you may have second thoughts if you're the one breaking it off. But there comes a time when you have to let go, which is the first step to moving on. Needlessly dragging things out will only prolong the pain and delay the healing process.
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  Find activities to keep yourself busy. You can engage in something that you've always enjoyed, or find something new. Eliminate excessive downtime in your dorm room, where your mind will wander. For example, try getting involved in intramural sports. Not only will you keep yourself busy, you will possibly get yourself in shape.
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  Surround yourself with good people. There's a fine line to tread, however. On the one hand, you need folks to allow you to get your feelings off of your chest. But at the same time, it shouldn't be a pity party. Too much "he was so bad for you" can take its toll after a while, making it harder to deal with the breakup. Ideally, your social circle should be a perfect balance between supportive and positive.
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  Find new hangouts on campus. Staying active is good, but everyone needs relaxation time. When you go out to let off some steam, try attending some new venues. This will be beneficial for a variety of reasons. During a breakup and shortly thereafter, the last thing you need is to torment yourself by going to the same places where you and your ex spent time. Plus, it will be refreshing and therapeutic to experience a change of scenery.