How to Stop Arguing With Your Brother
It is inevitable that siblings will argue. Whether you are fighting about sharing toys or jealousy between siblings, the rivalry does not have to be constant. For brothers, no matter the age, it is necessary to realize that the connection and love between the two of you is far more important than an insignificant squabble. While this may be difficult for young boys to realize, focusing on respect and understanding will be mutually beneficial in the long run and create a strong bond for the present and future.
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Take a deep breath and assess the situation when an argument arises. Instead of yelling back in anger, think about what is really going on and why you two are fighting. Some reasons may include jealousy, competition, boredom or different opinions.
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Reflect on your own actions and think about what you may have done to contribute to the situation. Do you bully your brother at times or try to manipulate him? Admit to your faults and understand that constant fighting involves two people, not just one.
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Think about whether this is something worthy of an argument. Sometimes it is easier to compromise over something small rather than let the fight continue.
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Explain how you feel when the two of you are fighting. Use this conversation guideline to express your thoughts in a calm and productive manner, "I feel...when you...I want..."
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Avoid criticizing, passing judgment or bringing up other issues. Stay calm, focused and respectful of one another.
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Allow your brother to reciprocate his thoughts and feelings. Be an active listener. Do not disregard what he says since you would want him to do the same for you.
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Make ground rules. Are you always fighting over the TV or a computer? Set a schedule together and agree upon when each person can use certain items. Do you fight over who gets to sit in the front seat of the car? Take turns each week. Setting rules together reduces the chance that a fight will arise.
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Talk with a parent or counselor if the problem persists after you have put in the effort to reduce the fighting.
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