How to Greet New Kids in the Neighborhood

It is never easy to be the new family in town.

Most of us know what it feels like to be the new person, whether starting a new job, moving to a new city or starting at a new school. But being the new kid in the neighborhood can be very scary. Be a friendly neighbor and introducing yourself to the new family. It will go a long way in making them feel comfortable and welcome. Encourage your children to do the same and soon "the new kid" won't feel like a stranger anymore.

Instructions

1. Approach the new family after you've noticed that they've settled into their new home. It may not be best to visit while the moving trucks are still unloading furniture, as they will be overwhelmed with boxes, moving packages and other responsibilities.

2. Bring a homemade treat with you. A pan of homemade brownies or a plate of chocolate chip cookies can go a long way in easing the anxiety associated with greeting unfamiliar people. They are also a good way to break the ice if you find yourself unsure of what to say. Introduce yourself to the adults by saying, "I just wanted to welcome you to the neighborhood," and hand them the plate of goodies.

3. Bring your children with you. If you notice that the new family has children similar in age to yours, bring them with you when greeting the new neighbors. Introduce yourself to the child first, using the name you expect them to use when they speak to you, such as Ms. Kim or Mrs. Baker. Since children will typically act shy around people they don't know, introduce your children and ask the new children a few opening questions to get them talking. For example, "This is Ryan and he is in third grade. What grade are you in?" Allow the children a chance to answer and encourage your child to keep up his end of the conversation. It might be good to help your child brainstorm a few conversation starters at home before ringing the neighbor's bell.

4. Invite the neighbor children for a play date. Once you have introduced yourself to both the parents and the children in the home, extend an offer for a play date at your home. You may have to be specific in order to get the new parents to take you up on your offer. For example, say "Can your son come over to play for an hour this afternoon around four? I know Ryan would love to have some company and I'm sure you have lots to do," rather than "Send your son over to play anytime."

5. Include the new family in any neighborhood functions. If there is a big neighborhood party planned, be sure to personally invite the new family. Some families may be wary of stepping into a party that was planned before their arrival, feeling like they shouldn't be a part of neighborhood functions yet. With a personal invitation from you, they will feel welcomed.

6. Introduce the family to others in the neighborhood with children similar in age. When making introductions, try to add a personal detail. For example, say "This is Susan who lives next door to me. Her son Jack is in the third grade, too. And Susan, this is Amy who moved into the Watsons' old house. Her son Blake will be starting school with Ryan and Jack next week." Be sure to introduce children to each other in this manner, too, if they seem shy and unable to make connections on their own.

Tips & Warnings

• Be sure to introduce yourself to the parents of the new children in the neighborhood before approaching the children yourself.

References

• "Touchpoints: 3 to 6"; T. Berry Brazelton, M.D.; 1992