How to Live With a Wife Who Is a Prude

A lack of intimacy in a marriage can lead to marital strife.

Marriage is a union between two people who have, at least at one time, a bond and desire to be together. Though times and situations change, some marriages withstand the evolution and continue to evolve in to a mutually acceptable arrangement. If you have a marriage where the passion has dissipated, and you are dealing with and trying to understand a wife who is not as interested in intimacy as before; you must approach the marriage with a sense of understanding. Dealing with a wife who has turned into a prude takes time and a commitment to saving the marriage.

Things You'll Need

• Notebook
• Flowers, candy, gifts

Instructions

1. Assess your marriage in open and honest terms with your wife. Sit down together, without any distractions or other people being around, and have a discussion about the marriage and the lack of intimacy. Avoid calling your wife a prude as she may take offense to the term. Make sure you have the discussion during a calm period in the marriage and not immediately following a large fight or disagreement. Arrange for the conversation to take place at a nice restaurant over dinner or at a favorite location such as a pier, beach or park.

2. Talk about the lack of intimacy in the marriage. Tell your wife, in honest and upfront terms, why you feel deprived and rejected due to the lack of intimacy between the two of you. Ask your wife to tell you directly why she does not feel the desire to have marital relations with you. Know that if your marriage was always lacking intimacy and romance, you may not be married to someone with a high level of passion and sex drive.

3. Suggest that the two of you try to reconnect by taking a vacation together or simply going away for a night to a romantic hotel. If your wife agrees, arrange for a romantic dinner, book a hotel room and have flowers delivered to the room for your arrival. Prior to the get away, have flowers sent to your wife with a card or note stating that you are looking forward to your time together to reconnect.

4. Start paying compliments to your wife more often. Know that some women may lack a desire to have relations or lack passion if they feel unwanted or underappreciated. Start telling your wife on a daily basis that you find her attractive, you appreciate what she does and compliment her on her appearance, cooking, child-rearing skills and anything else that you can think of to make her feel important to you.

5. Work on reconnecting with your wife by touching her arm when sitting together, giving her kisses on the cheek when you walk by her and making sure to tell her that you love her.

Tips & Warnings

• Talk to your wife about attending marriage counseling to address the issue of intimacy and the issues it is causing in your marriage.

• Do not threaten your wife with divorce due to a lack of sex unless you are certain that is a viable option for the both of you.

References

• Good Housekeeping magazine: Marriage Advice: Stop Having the Same Fight
• Good Housekeeping magazine: Bring Back That Lovin' Feeling
• Mayo Clinic: Marriage Counseling