How to Teach Children to Respect Individual differences
As a parent or teacher, it is important to teach a child from an early age to take pride in her identity. To ensure she grows up to be a well-adapted member of America's diverse society, it is just as important to instill within her the value of her peers' individual differences in nationality, language, skin color, physical abilities, gender, religion, culture, traditions and personal interests.
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Answer questions. A child is naturally curious, so don't be surprised when he asks you why his friend's skin is black or why his aunt doesn't go to the same church you do. Some questions may make you uncomfortable or you may simply not know the answer. Respond to them anyway in the best way you can, even if you have to do some research first and promise to discuss the issue again later -- the lack of a response may promote negative connotations. And before you answer any questions, ask the child questions to ensure you fully understand the inquiry.
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Correct intolerant behavior and reinforce tolerant behavior. When a child makes a prejudice remark or acts intolerantly toward another child, do more than simply say, "That's not nice." Encourage her to apologize and then take her aside to discuss in detail why what she said or did was inappropriate. On the other hand, if you catch her being kind and inclusive toward another child, praise her promptly to positively reinforce the importance of accepting, respecting and treating everyone equally.
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Teach the child about different cultures, traditions, and perspectives through personal experience. Try having Greek food for dinner one night, attending a Catholic mass, discussing a friend's disability or celebrating an unfamiliar holiday. These diversifying activities are a great way for a child to interact with a wide variety of people, start to understand peoples' differences and enjoy making a whole new set of friends.
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Be an example by consistently modeling tolerant behavior. The adage that actions speak louder than words is undeniably true. A child will unlikely learn to respect others' differences if he sees you do the opposite. Evaluate your own prejudices and biases while you seek and embrace opportunities to convey a feeling of acceptance and tolerance toward all with whom you interact. Exemplify for him that unconditional politeness, value of personal space, dignified respect and self-control are rewarding and will help him become a likable and constructive member of society.
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