How to Forgive Someone Who Has Lied to You
When someone lies to you, getting past the untruth can present a serious challenge. For many, letting go of this dishonesty-filled past and moving forward with a fresh perspective is a serious challenge. Moving past this lie is important, however, if you want to maintain the relationship that you currently have with the individual. If you don't dedicate yourself to forgiving the individual who did you wrong, you may never be able to rebuild a relationship nor will you be able to move forward in a productive and healthy manner.
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Pinpoint what you are trying to forgive the individual for. Before you can forgive, you must have a clear picture of what you are forgiving. Think back upon the lie or lies that the individual told so you are clear as to what triggered this lack of trust in the first place.
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Put an end to your anger. While no longer being angry at someone who lied to you is a challenge, you can not forgive if you are blinded by anger. To help yourself let go of your anger, ask yourself what the anger is really accomplishing. In all likelihood, nothing good is coming from holding onto the anger and, as a result, the healthiest thing to do is simply let it go.
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List reasons why you want to forgive the person. On a piece of paper, compose a physical list of these things. This list could include things like, "She is generally supportive," or, "I love her." With this list in hand, you can likely better remember why you are putting so much effort into forgiving her in the first place.
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Speak candidly with the individual you are trying to forgive. Don't leave the individual that you are trying to forgive in the dark as to your struggles. Instead, explain to him that you are trying to move past the lies and ask him to make it easier for you to do so by not lying to you again.
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Work to rebuild your relationship. Gradually put more and more trust in the individual in question. By allowing her to regain your trust gradually, you can not only reduce the chances that you get hurt again but also show her that her honesty has a reward, as it is bringing you both closer together.
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