Preventing Divorce

Remember When

"For better or for worse, in sickness and in health..." These are the famous words quoted in almost every traditional wedding ceremony. Do these words really mean anything? Why do so many marriages end in divorce? This is a sad reality in today's society. Part of the problem is that young couples enter into marriage so quickly, thinking it will be easy. Then, when the honeymoon is over, reality sets in and they realize that it takes work to make a marriage work.

Children and Divorce

Often a struggling couple believes that having a child will bring them closer and strengthen their marriage. This theory is anything but true. Couples dealing with a difficult marriage should never choose this time to start a family. It will only cause more tension and strife which will, in turn, damage the marriage even more. It will also hurt the child in any number of ways. If you already have children, they should be taken into consideration when contemplating divorce. Children of divorced parents are more likely to become divorced themselves. They are also more likely to become teen or single parents, to be depressed, to smoke and drink and to have a poor relationship with one or both parents.

Communication

Divorce is all too commonplace today. Society has made divorce the "easy way out". There are ways to prevent an impending divorce and revive a seemingly doomed marriage. Communication is an extremely important part of a good marriage. No marriage can survive it the husband and wife are unwilling to communicate. A crucial part of communication is honesty and trust. If a husband and wife cannot trust one another, the marriage is in trouble. The same holds true if the spouse cannot be trusted.

Yes Dear

According to Homer McDonald, author of "Stop Your Divorce", agreeing with your spouse is the key to preventing a divorce. Arguing with your spouse and trying to convince him to stay in the marriage will only make you appear needy and desperate. It will also build up even more negative feelings in your spouse reducing your chances of reconciling. Keeping a positive tone and and agreeing to whatever your spouse says could be what gets your marriage back on track.

Seek Counseling

Anyone thinking about divorce should consider marriage counseling. Sometimes bringing in an unbiased third party that is trained to give the correct advice can make all the difference in the world. Be sure to seek a professional that is trained in marriage counseling.

Resources

• Stop Your Divorce
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