How to Have a Good Conversation With a Woman

Conversations are not just about talking.

Talking is just one part of making conversation, according to Dr. Norman Markel of the University of Florida. Mastering the art of conversation with a woman requires understanding all the different aspects of what makes a conversation good.

Considerations

Being comfortable when conversing is important for both parties. Achieve this by doing a variety of things. Maintain eye contact when she is talking, as this will show her you are listening. Avoid one-word-answer questions, which can cause the conversation to end. Allow for natural pauses; do not let your nerves try to fill every silence. Even great conversations have pauses.

Types

The type of conversation you have is crucial. If the woman you are talking to is not a friend, you need to stick to comfortable subjects, such as local news, hobbies and interests. Build up the conversation, until it flows naturally. Be careful to avoid potentially controversial subjects such as politics.

Warning

We often talk as much with our body as we do with our mouths. Touching someone on the arm or hand, during conversation, is often a natural mannerism. Avoid this when talking to a woman you do not know. Invading personal space can put her on edge and lead to awkward silences.

References

• Psych Central; Making Conversation: A Skill Not an Art
• Pyschology of Conversation: How to be a Conversation Detective
• Teach-Nology: Ten Sure-Fire Ways to Make Conversation

Resources

• "The Art of Conversation: With Directions for Self Education"; George W Carlton; 2007