Reasons Why Couples Fight
We all can think back to a relationship that ended in a painful breakup. Listed are four reasons that couples fight. You can utilize this information to prevent or discuss these areas when you see issues begin to arise.
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Money
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Money is one of the top causes for divorce. Couples fight about money because there is a lack of money, or money is overspent and debt is brought into the relationship but not disclosed until later. Money has many variables in a relationship and when those roles or variables are not understood, it causes communication breakdown.
Compatibility
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Couples do marry without really getting to know each other. Then once they are married, they learn they are not compatible mentally or even in their beliefs about religion or parenting, which can lead to many nights of arguments. There is also the issue of sexual compatibility. Is the couple having relations enough so both parties are satisfied or is one person feeling unfulfilled? One of the ways to solve this issue is for couples to talk about sex openly and honestly.
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The Past
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Very rarely does anyone enter into a relationship without some baggage from the past. Unfortunately, this baggage can cause people to make problematic decisions based on past experiences. This is not fair to a spouse or person you are currently dating because this previous memory is influencing reactions to different situations.
Lack of Understanding
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When someone in a relationship feels misunderstood and believes this is not going to change, the same things tend to be argued about over and over. One person often thinks the other is not hearing what that person is saying. Communicating your message in a way that the receiver understands is an art. If you feel misunderstood, discuss your concerns and ask your spouse to share with you what he or she believes you were saying.
Blame Game
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Whenever a situation arises, people tend to place blame on the other person instead of taking responsibility for mistakes. Negative words spoken or even name calling begins to eat away at the person on the receiving end. Eventually he or she decides not to take the verbal abuse anymore and leaves.
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