Do You Give Both Shower & Wedding Gifts?

Weddings can get expensive with all of the parties to attend: Engagement parties, bridal showers, couples showers, family gatherings, bachelorette party, rehearsal dinner and the wedding. Though brides might differ on their preferences, following common courtesies laid out by several past wedding goers might be the way to go.

Throwing the Shower

If you are a bridesmaid, maid of honor or family member throwing the shower, you are not required to get a gift for the bride.

Bridal Shower

If you are invited to a shower, purchase a gift unless you are not able to attend. Then it is up to you whether you give a gift or not.

Couples Shower

The modern couples shower also requires a gift, even if there is a separate bridal shower you are invited to. Choose a gift the bride and groom will enjoy.

Bachelorette Party

Purchasing a gift for the bride is also a courtesy. Choose something for the wedding night.

Wedding

Always purchase a gift for the wedding if you are invited, even if you can't go. Make sure to get the address from the mother of the bride or from the bride and groom as you send your regrets.

Avoid High Cost

If you are attending all of the parties for the bride and groom throughout their engagement and ceremony, choose low-cost items. The couple will be reminded of the several gifts you gave when they are filling out thank you notes.

References

• Wedding Etiquette