Mindful living is a very hot topic amongst moms. Why? Because parents these days are often finding themselves fighting an ongoing battle against their children’s bulging schedules and increasing amounts of screen time. Many feel that there is a real need to slow down and connect with their kids before it’s too late.
So what exactly is mindfulness? It’s about paying attention to the present, on purpose, without judgment, according to Jon Kabat-Zinn, founder of MBSR (mindfulness-based stress reduction). To apply it to parenting, you focus on being fully aware and in the moment with your kids in a non-judgmental and presumably calm manner.
One thing that practitioners of the mindful parenting movement rely heavily on is a mantra (or several mantras for several parenting situations). A mantra is a statement that you repeat to yourself to help in the practice of mindfulness and, as new-agey as it sounds, it can be an incredibly useful parenting tool.
If this seems like something you’d like to try, here are our favorite modern mommy mantras for 2015:
- “This too shall pass.” This one is a classic for good reason. The idea is to remind yourself that time is fleeting and whatever issue is currently causing the most strife in your household, from tantrums to term papers, it will eventually be resolved.
- “Pause, reflect, respond.” So much of parenting is reaction. This is a gentle reminder to take a moment to examine your own emotions, as well as the circumstances behind a situation, before engaging with your kids.
- “They are not their tantrums.” If you’ve ever had a toddler in the house, this one doesn’t need much explaining. It’s a great thing to put on repeat in your brain while enduring a 25-minute meltdown at the grocery store.
- “Sometimes you will never know the value of a moment until it becomes a memory.” This one is actually a Dr. Seuss quote that is a favorite of mine. It serves as a gentle reminder that as parents we have a very sacred job in helping to create our children’s memories.
Do you have a mommy mantra that helps you get through the sometimes seemingly endless days with the kids?