How Long Before the Wedding Should the Response Cards Be Mailed Back?

Returning response cards is courteous.

A Prompt Return

As a courtesy, etiquette demands that the response card be returned as swiftly as possible. Those little cards are more than just an affirmation of attendance, they're the way the bride and groom determine cost when it comes to catering and the wedding cake. Most couples include self-addressed stamped envelopes with the cards to encourage guests to return them.

Planning to Attend

Planning is required to determine whether or not the guests can attend the wedding. Hold onto the card as long as necessary to ensure that you accepted the invitation only to discover you can't attend, after all. Returning the card is a courtesy, but agreeing to go is rude if when you can't make it, especially when the event is catered.

Bottom Line

Whatever you do, make sure to return the card, even if you cannot attend the event. Planning a wedding is stressful enough without wondering where the response cards are and whether or not there will be enough food to serve everyone. If you're uncertain whether the couple has received your response card, it is appropriate to call and double check that they're expecting you.

References

• Utah Bride Blog: Response Card Etiquette
• Bridal Buds: Lack of Response Cards -- Does This Happen to All Brides?
• Brides: Top 10 Guest Questions