Should I Tell a Wife Her Husband Is Cheating on Her?
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It's the Right Thing to Do
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Relationship columnists Wayne and Tamera Mitchell recommend telling the person who has been cheated on. Not telling encourages the cheating and infidelity to continue. They write, "Cheating is a knowingly done misdeed. Removing the consequences virtually all religions and legal systems allow for, encourages infidelity to occur." They also stress that the teller remember that his actions are not what may cause a dissolution of the marriage if it occurs. Rather, it was the act of cheating.
They May Not Believe You Anyway
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Julia Boyd, a psychotherapist, does not think a third person should get involved and tell. In Jet magazine she says, "When you hear it from someone else, there is a lot of suspicion, not about the partner, but about the person telling you." In other words, the partner's denial about the cheating may just bring stress for you.
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Telling is very much a personal decision, but whether you tell the woman being cheated on depends on how close you are to her, experts agree. Psychotherapist Vesta Callender says in Jet, "I don't believe in acquaintances telling because it violates boundaries, and the person you tell will feel violated and the subject of gossip."
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