Etiquette for Jewish Wedding Gifts

Honor the traditions of the bride and groom with your wedding present

Jewish weddings are rich in tradition. From the chuppah to the shattered wine glass, the ceremony is full of elements that reflect the history and beliefs of the Jewish people. Wedding rituals can vary depending on whether the families are Orthodox or Reform, but a well-chosen present is always a thoughtful indication of your affection for the bride and groom.

Money

Gifts of money are a traditional gift at Jewish weddings. The amount of the gift depends on how much you can afford as well as your relationship to the family. A longstanding friend or close family member would give a larger gift than a more recent acquaintance.

To Life

When giving a monetary gift, it is considerate to give a multiple of 18. Chai is the Hebrew word for Living, and it is also the representation of the number 18. Rather than give $100, it is more thoughtful to give $108 ($6 x $18). Chai times Chai, or $18 x $18 ($324), is considered especially symbolic.

Delivering the Gift

In the Jewish tradition it is considered preferable to send the present to the new couple's home before the wedding rather than bringing it to the ceremony.

Registry

Most Jewish brides and grooms register for their wedding with major retailers, online and in stores. Gifts chosen from those registries are always appropriate.

Heirlooms

Traditional Jewish gifts include a kiddush cup, a tallit or a tzedakah box. All these are part of the Jewish rituals and could be heirlooms for the new couple.

References

• Jewish Celebrations: Orthodox
• Jewish Wedding Rabbi: Jewish wedding

Resources

• Forever Wed: Jewish Weddings A Practical Guide