Etiquette and Manners for Dating
Proper etiquette and manners are among the most important traits a person can display on a date. Etiquette and manners do not only extend to the person on the date but also to those the couple may encounter on their date. For example, a waiter, cab driver or theater employee may be encountered on the date and the courtesy shown to them also may have a favorable impression on the date. Does this Spark an idea?
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Preparation
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It is always good etiquette to come prepared for the date. This means a shower, brushed teeth, a shave (if applicable), hair combed and styled, deodorant, perhaps a fragrance and attention paid to personal hygiene. Dress well, there is no excuse for showing up on a date poorly dressed. Plan the date or at least have options available. Clean and fuel up the car, if you are picking up a date. Always show up on time.
Respect
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Always show up for the date; do not bail last minute unless it is an absolute emergency. Honor the plans that have been made. Compliment the date, who likely spent time getting ready and will appreciate it if the effort is noticed. Do not smoke if your date does not. Ask the date if he is comfortable with the plans for the evening, never assume she wants to do what you do. Never curse or use foul language.
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Money
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It is common practice for a man to pay on a first date. A man should politely insist he pay or pay secretly when the woman is not paying attention, for example, by slipping a credit card to the waiter.
A woman should always offer to pay and may even want to pay for her own way. Many couples prefer "going dutch," each paying for his or her own entertainment on the date.
Paying can be discussed before the date, so there is no confusion and both parties know what to expect. A date may find this polite and respectful. However topdatingtips.com suggests that money should not be discussed and can take away from the romantic atmosphere. Use discretion when discussing the bill and who pays, as it is often situation-specific.
Communication
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A date is really about getting to know someone. When communicating use soft and warm eye contact, as opposed to a harsh stare or glare. Never argue, even if you disagree, all that needs to be said is "I'm sorry I don't share your view, but I respect your opinion." Let it go at that. Avoid discussing past relationships if possible, especially the details. Do not lie; it only leads to trouble. Be honest about your intentions whatever they may be.
Post-Date
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Even if you do not like your date, follow through with the date to completion. This is simply the polite thing to do. If the person asks to see you again, be honest, but gentle, and say, "There isn't that strong a romantic connection, and it feels more like friends," or something else polite. Call if you promise to and don't lead a person on. Do not assume just because a date went well that the other person felt the same way, ask him how he feels.
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References
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