The Psychology of Divorce
It is impossible to explain all instances of divorce using a particular set of guidelines or theories. Just as each relationship varies, every divorce will be different from one another. However, researchers such as the psychologist Dr. Donald T. Saposnek have long studied divorce and its numerous causes. These studies help to shed light on the concept of divorce, which helps to not only understand it, but also create methods for saving marriages.
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Intimacy Issues
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Being unable to connect with a partner on an intimate or sexual level is a main cause of divorce. Years of feeling dissatisfied often leads to infidelity, bringing about even more cause for divorce. Many people believe the act of infidelity is the reason for divorce. In fact, studies such as one published in 2004 in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships show that divorce proneness exists long before extramarital sex occurs.
Family Life
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Introducing a baby to a seemingly healthy relationship usually seems like a promising time for a family. However, often times the addition of a child brings about cause for divorce. Arguments over the child, disagreements about parenting, or having the child or children when financially unprepared are all antagonists for divorce.
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Personal Problems
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When a spouse has untreated personal problems such as addiction, it often leads to divorce. Alcohol or drug abuse is not the only personal issue that brings about marital trouble. Psychological disorders or illnesses also create large amounts of strain. Relationships in which one member is suffering from mental illness have a higher chance of violence occurring, which also contributes to divorce.
Poor Communication
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An inability to communicate with one another slowly builds a wall between couples who choose to ignore the problem. As time passes, the failure to communicate one's feelings, desires, thoughts and concerns bring about irreversible separation. Arguing is often the top method of communicating, which only makes things worse.
Financial Hardships
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Economic struggles are difficult for anyone, but they prove to be even more challenging for a relationship. A lack of funds causes arguments as well as resentment toward one another, which over time, can prove to be detrimental to a once healthy relationship. Researchers at North Carolina State University published information in 2008 suggesting that marriages with financial harmony last longer than marriages suffering from economic hardship.
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