What Is a Catholic Wake?

A Catholic wake, more formally called a vigil, is part of the steps leading up to the burial of a person. It is the first of the three Rites of Christian Burial traditionally observed by the church. The other two steps are the funeral service and the burial. The actual event can vary from location to location but there are some things that can be expected at any Catholic wake.

History

The name wake came about because in the past the body was watched over before burial to ensure that the person did not wake, that he was truly dead. Medical science takes care of that now, but the wake still exists. It has evolved into a time of visitation for friends and family to gather, say their goodbyes and offer condolences and support to each other.

Function

Eulogies are not allowed at a Catholic funeral service. The wake is the time for eulogies, stories and sharing of memories. In Protestant ceremonies, it is common for eulogies to be part of the funeral service itself, this is where Catholic ceremonies differ. It is also the time when condolences and support are offered to the family members. Friends mingle and share their support with each other as well.

Location

Wakes are usually held in a funeral home, but can sometimes be held in a home or at a church. It is usually held the evening before the funeral service and Mass. In some cases, it is held on more than one night. There are set hours for the wake, and they will be published along with the obituary.

What Happens?

A visitation period is usually held at the beginning of the wake. People come and go and pay their respects. At the end of the visitation period, there will be a service. This service does not have a strict format, but will loosely include prayers, scripture, a homily by the priest and eulogies by family and friends. Often these stories are funny and there can be a great deal of laughter along with the tears. Think of it as a time to celebrate the deceased's life. It is closed with a prayer.

Attire

Proper attire can vary greatly according to location and local customs. It is safe to dress as if attending a church service, if you are not sure what is appropriate. In some areas, the dress will be more casual. Even if the accepted attire is casual, do not wear loud colors or prints. In any case, wear something modest, work attire would be appropriate. Dressing appropriately is part of the way that you pay your respects to the family.

What is Expected of Guests?

A guest book will be provided at the entrance. Guests are expected to sign the book. The family will be located near the casket which will probably be open. A guest should approach the family and offer a few words of sympathy. Viewing of the body is expected, but not necessary. Guest are free to mingle among themselves.

References

• St. Brigid of Kildare: What you Need to Know About Catholic Funerals
• Wyoming Funeral Directors Association: History of Funeral Customs