- Everyone desires an exciting sex life. It is a basic human instinct. The art of talking dirty heightens the excitement between partners when they are between the sheets. It can make what is old seem new again. It sometimes takes learning new things and an expansion of vocabulary to make it truly effective, though.
- Talking dirty really isn't as hard as some may think, no matter how reserved you may be. Every person is programmed with two personalities. No, this doesn't make you crazy, but it does allow for inhibitions to be exposed for the sake of excitement. If you are a novice at this, start out slow. While you are having intercourse, simply describe how you feel. Tell your partner that you like the way he feels or let him know what's turning you on the most. This will certainly heighten his excitement if you are a person who is ordinarily a silent sex partner. Another way to improve your dirty talking abilities is to let go of anything you may have been raised to believe, such as using a foul mouth is not ladylike. All is fair in love and sex, so rather than use technical terms for certain body parts, say it in more sexy terms. One other technique that can be tried is role playing. Imagine yourself as his captive, submitting yourself to his sexual desires. Beg in a submissive voice, giving him the idea that he is in complete control of your orgasm. This is a great turn-on for men.
- Talking dirty comes in many forms. And they don't always have to be verbal. One verbal type is phone sex. If you and your partner do not live together or are involved in a long-distance relationship, talking dirty over the phone is a great way to keep the fires burning until you can be together physically. Tell each other what you would be doing to the other if you were in the bedroom at that moment. Also, if you choose to take it a step further and masturbate during the conversation, the sounds of ecstasy will ricochet through the line, making your partner so excited he won't be able to control it. Another form of talking dirty is through body language. This is best accomplished when out in public, surrounded by other people. Being naughty in the presence of others is a great turn-on. All you need to do is make a sexual gesture toward your partner and they will be primed for action when you are finally alone. You can also talk dirty through touch. It is tantalizing to give and/or receive a full body massage, or to touch while talking nasty.
- There is no time frame when it comes to arousing your partner through words. Dirty talk can be as natural as sex itself. Let nature take its course and allow yourself to enjoy the moment. Unless you have an audience critiquing your vocabulary, you have nothing to worry about. Also, every little bit helps, and the more you practice talking dirty, the more creative you will find yourself becoming.
- One fear many people have when it comes to talking dirty during intercourse is worrying about what her partner will think. While you may be gung ho, your partner may be apprehensive. It is a good idea to talk it over with your partner before trying this technique. There are some women who feel they should be reserved, and there are some men who are afraid of offending their mate with the words they want to use. Making sure that you are both willing to try it. Talking dirty is also a time to try out any different voice you may have. Remember, it's not just the words you say, but it's also how they are spoken. Try sounding commanding, add some grunts and groans. If it's a break from the ordinary, your partner will love it.
